Why are many gays so angry? Why can’t they just civilly and intelligently make their case?
First of all, I would suggest not trying to talk gays out of their anger. Yes, if their anger spills over into violence, they should be dealt with like any other citizen whose anger spills over into violence … regardless of any reason why a person might become angry in life.
But it is good to understand the roots of gay anger. Gays are basically angry because of the fact that they ended up “gay” and they are angry at who caused them to end up in this condition (a condition that the American Psychiatric Association up until 1972 called a psychological disease). That could be: their mother, their father, mean kids at school, a rejection by the opposite sex, the unnatural standards of masculinity and femininity in society, etc.
Now they try to ground that anger on anything that stands in the way of them living the lifestyle that they’ve chosen or feel forced to live. That primarily now includes the Bible, the Mormon church, and Christians in general.
Also, gays will always fight for social acceptance because deep down they don’t accept themselves. And they don’t have peace in presenting and defending their position because their lifestyle is indefensible by nature’s standards (and “nature” is where peace comes from).
What about the anger of gay supporters that you often see in protests? They have their own issues, usually having to do with authority and (what I call in my book, The Plague Of Liberalism) “freedom addiction”.
Gays don’t want to be judged or preached at … which is how they view any attempt to have the Bible presented to them. This is unfortunate because that shuts them off to the only solution to their problem, because the Bible gives them a way out, as it has so many already. They want to be free to live the gay lifestyle and ground their sexuality and romance that way or are even addicted to sex. But they go too far when they ask for society to validate that lifestyle. God has destroyed societies for that very lifestyle being legitimized. And God’s creation (nature) is hostile to that lifestyle via the creation of AIDS and other STDs. That’s just a plain, observable fact that can’t be attributed to or blamed on any human being or institution.
If people want to experiment with this dangerous lifestyle, that’s their business. But they shouldn’t ask society to legitimize it, no more than society should legitimize any other dangerous lifestyle, let alone bless it with the legitimacy of “marriage”, which would bring a danger upon us all, given God’s history around this issue. (Notice how Katrina happened right before a large gay parade was scheduled in New Orleans, and also in an area where another societal ill is: casinos).
But “gays” are people first. And we should have compassion on anyone who is having a problem in this life. And if we know a way out, we have an obligation to show the way out. My suggestion to someone who is having a problem with homosexuality would be to do a web search for the many organizations and books by ex gays that offer help with this. Don’t brand yourself as “gay”, but rather, see yourself as just a person who is having a problem with something in life (which is the case for most people on some level), and know that there is a solution to your problem. It might feel good to “belong” to a movement, or it might feel good to find “acceptance” at a local gay bar, but a big issue then becomes: are you finding acceptance by God in your heart? Trying to sweep under the rug God’s lack of acceptance is the reason why alcohol and drugs are a big part of gay life. (But that is also true for a lot of people who are trying to “belong” and fit in and receive “acceptance” with individuals or groups they are in whose ways aren’t receiving peace in their heart from God). You won’t get the solution to your problem perhaps by listening to Christians or Christian churches who don’t know how to articulate the solution well, or from a Godless mainstream psychology community. But it does exist. There are many testimonies to that fact. My offering in that way can be seen at: www.Why-Are-We-Here.org. God bless and good luck :-)